I needed to be the difference. Rather than just talk about it I needed to be part of that change. It sparked something in me
When I went back to my family it was kind of like I died and came back again… it’s like you’re a new part of the family. I’m just trying my best to fit in with everybody.
Once I was twelve I was Whāngai into their family, which is the equivalent to Maori adoption. With Whāngai you do keep all of the whakapapa, you do keep all of the ancestry and the history. So none of that stuff is lost.
Find something in your life. Find a person or a goal or an objective.. Something that gives your life meaning.
So I decided to analyse myself and realise what my trigger points were and how to actually be aware of everything and how to deal with everything. And that’s made it a lot better.
Have a goal… It’s really helpful for me at least. Just having it there. It’s a really strong thing.
Keep your mind open to different opportunities and take those opportunities before it’s too late. Don’t let one thing stop you from doing everything else.
My Personal Advisor’s helping me get there. She’s been teaching me how to deal with things, how to get onto a different path, how to heal.
Whatever you want to do when you get older, pick something you love, something you admire, something that inspires you.
They had to say to me “Shine, you can just do your own thing. You don’t have to worry, we’re here now.”
You’re just in a good space (at church). I feel like I don’t need to be different. I can just be myself.